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Share Your Time with Your Children

和孩子分享你的时间

Teens don't want to be seen with their parents, much less talk to them or do anything with them.

青少年不想被人看到和他们的父母在一起,nine英语怎么读音(树英语怎么读音)更不用说和他们说话或一起做任何事情。

That's what we hear all the time.

这是我们一直以来所听到的。

I don 't believe it. Oh, sure, when my daughter and my son were in their teens, they wanted to spend most of their free time with their friends.

但我不相信。当然，当我的女儿和儿子十几岁的时候，他们大部分空闲时间都想和他们的朋友一起度过。

But there were always those special times planned when we enjoyed being alone with each other, when we connected deeply, and when we were reminded again how much we loved one another.

然而，当我们享受与彼此独处的时光，当我们紧密相连时，当我们再次想起我们是多么爱彼此时，总有那么一些计划好的特别时刻。

I recall how delighted my 14-year-old daughter, Alisa, felt when I asked her for a date to see a movie.

我还记得当我带14岁的女儿艾丽莎去看电影时，她是多么地高兴。

It was a bittersweet Italian movie, Cinema Paradiso,

这是一部苦中带乐的意大利电影，片名为《天堂电影院》，

and I wanted this story to give her a sense of how I grew up as an Italian boy in a small town, where life was simple and where everyone knew one another.

我希望能让她了解我这个意大利男孩小镇上长大的故事，了解那里简单的生活，每个人都互相认识。

I wanted her to know how her father had been brought up and shaped.

我想让她知道她的父亲是如何成长起来的。

We both laughed and cried during the same scenes in the movie.

我们因为电影里同样的场景大哭大笑。

She was attached to the movie. I decided we should complete our evening with some lively conversation at a nearby bakery.

她对这部电影很着迷。我决定我们应该在附近的一家面包店谈一些有意思的事来结束我们的夜晚。

I told her the movie was now so much more special for me because I had shared it with her.

我告诉她，因为我和她一起看了这部电影，现在它对我来说更特别了。

She smiled. She understood. We made a memory that night.

她笑了，也懂了。那晚我们留下了美好的回忆。

From our living room window, I saw my 13-year-old son, Jason, tearfully searching our vegetable garden for a place to bury his pet.

通过客厅的窗户，我看到我13岁的儿子杰森在我们的菜园里眼泪汪汪地寻找一个地方，用来埋葬他宠物。

Every pet he owned — lizards（蜥蜴）, fish, or hamsters（仓鼠） — had died.

他养的每一只宠物——蜥蜴、鱼或仓鼠——都死了。

I was at his side as we searched for the best gravesite. We dug the grave, said our goodbyes and then he cried.

在我们寻找最合适的地点时，我就在他身边。我们挖好了坟墓，说了再见，然后他哭了。

He cried hard and he asked me why every pet he had owned died so soon.

他哭得很厉害，问我为什么他养的每一只宠物都这么快就死了。

I could feel his heart break against my chest. I just held him close.

我能感觉到他那挨着我胸口的心都碎了。我只是紧紧地抱着他。

He let me hold his aching soul. He needed me while he was confused.

他让我抱着他痛苦的灵魂。他在困惑的时候需要我。

Share your heart with your teens. Show them repeatedly that you know and love who they really are.

与你的孩子分享你的内心吧。反复向他们证明你知道并爱他们真正的样子。

There are tender memories waiting to be made.

亲切的回忆等待着你们一起去创造。